so i just read a meaningful article about the difference between dating a girl & a woman.

well the present me felt that i'm a woman. but there's still many things i need to improve on. forgive me rambling about myself :D

1. A girl throws tantrums VS A woman still feels the emotions of being upset but cultivated the skill of responding versus reacting. She comes to the table as an adult, and communicate clearly what is bothering her.

i guess i'm halfway in between. i don't scream or pout..but i give silent treatment because that's i how i cope in the aftermath of an event. then once i get a clear head, i do communicate what is bothering me. i still find it hard to put my words and explanations across; but i do make the effort to be direct and honest with my feelings as much as i can(:

2. A girl perceives herself as a princess and believes people should treat her so VS a woman has her standards (what she holds herself to) not expectations (what she projects on to others).

i definitely don't see myself as a princess with all that pink dresses and beautiful crown; and wanting people to bow down and kiss my feet just because i deserved it. rather than a princess..i think i'd rather be Mulan :D she still is a Disney princess after all- risking her life to be a man to protect what she love, believing in who she is & doesn't give up when nobody trusts or believes her. well back to what i'm trying to say, i do have some expectations (don't everybody?) of the people i date (like hygiene, respect and manners-but these don't really count right?). but i don't force guys to do things for me if they don't want to. they're not obliged. but it would be nice to!

3. A girl uses her physical beauty as her currency and basis of value VS a woman knows her worth is beyond her physicality.

nuff' said. if only i could have physical beauty to charm people. NO. too bad i only have an average acne face...but i'm proud to say i have been loved not for my looks but my character and personality(:

4. A girl banks on a man to be her financial strategy VS a woman plans to be financially independent.

been there, done that. i don't pin much hopes on getting 'allowances' from my partner. i mean, what are the chances of me marrying a rich man when every girl out there wants to too? (it'll of course be a bonus if i can) HAHA. don't worry men. i've got my own money.

5. A girl sees the world from a place of lack and scarcity, she competes and tear down another in order to secure resources or a mate VS a woman helps other woman, she knows there's plenty enough to go around and takes the high road of integrity to get what she wants.

if i'm not interpreting this wrongly, it means that a woman doesn't get jealous and be a bitch and try to jeopardize other female's chance of being together with a male. well, of course i'd admit i'll be jealous, but i wouldn't drag others down with me. everybody have the rights to be happy. i'd probably be a little jealous initially, but i'll accept it and move on to find my own happiness :D

6. A girl cannot be bothered with anything domestic and is proud of the fact that she cannot cook or clean VS a woman understands that being domestic is not a duty but is a way of taking care of herself and others- and that in creating a family, having a person in the household who can contribute domestically is important.

this is like number 2. i'm more proud to say i can cook and clean :D if not cook..then, bake at least. and in fact, i can't stand uncleanliness. HAHAHAH.

7. A girl wants attention and be adored by many VS a woman wants respect and be adored by one.

RESPECT. well, i do have to argue that females need to attract some sort of attention first to get her presence known. THEN she earns respect from people by being herself and interact maturely. i do admit too, i do want attention but if only i could find that one  person who can give me all the attention and love i need- needless to say, i don't need to be adored by many. i only want you (:

8. A girl does not respect her body. She has yet to understand that her body and heat are sacred and it's important to be mindful of how she treats it and who she shares it with. Additionally, a girl cherishes materialistic possessions while a woman cherishes her health, her sense of self and her talents as her greatest assets.

i think have a lot to say for this one. well, those who know me, i do respect my body. i gave it away because at that period of times, i loved the guy and i believed i made the right decision that he'll treat my body and heart with respect. i trusted them and i gave them all i have because i loved them. i'm sorry to say i'm not pure or am i a saint any longer. but i believe i still am- because i gave my all. i don't know if they loved me the way i do; but i can firmly say i only give my heart, body, soul and mind to the people i love and trust. even if it doesn't work out in the end, i know that i loved them with all my heart once and i gave all that i had and i tried.

of course, i do own some materialistic things. i enjoy buying (second-hand) clothes and be given materialistic things (: BUT i buy them because they make me feel good about myself and not because i want to show them off. plus, i don't care for brands such as Gucci, Prada....and...what are the other brands again? :X erm well, it may be a want, but i don't need them.

9. A girl has not established her moral compass or values and is often inconsistent VS a woman takes the time to reflect on the type of human she wants to be and put them into her values and what she stands for. You'll feel exhausted spending time with a girl but empowered when you spend time with a woman.

i have to argue with this too, cause a girl has to make mistakes and only from them can she take time to reflect what she has done wrong and learn from it. only then can she truly be a woman of substance. that's what i think. and my thoughts and views are still inconsistent because i spend time thinking and reflecting what is right and wrong- and at the end of the day, there is no black and white but also shades of grey in between; and everything depends. There is no perfect  right or wrong answer in this world, there are only theories...with a few exceptional laws of course(: 

i'm not sure if spending time with me is exhausting, but nobody complained yet so i assume i'm empoweringggggg :D muahahaha.

10. A girl has a checklist that prioritizes superficial qualities above anything else (such as hot, popular, tall, rich etc.) VS a woman's checklist (integrity, intelligent, kind, good communicator, emotionally available etc.)

You want my checklist? i'm sure i've posted about it ages ago. but let's go for it again shall we?
Integrity, non-judgmental (open to ideas), forgiving, patient, capable, intelligent (not in terms of IQ, but also EQ and SQ), kind, respectful (to my family, friends, me, elderly, animals), fair (equal rights to sex, gende, race and religion), generous and determined (have a goal in life). of course, it'll be a bonus if he's rich, good looking (not a priority), lean (i don't mind big/fat but not skinn(ier) than me) and tall (preferably >1.75m). i'm not asking for too much right? hahaha.

11. A girl plays games VS a woman doesn't.

they really saved the best for last xD i'm sorry, i'm still working on this. i'm studying psychology and i can't help it if i'm better at reading your behavior, reading your mind and predicting your moves. I will act accordingly, but this doesn't count as playing games right? right? right? And somebody needs to define and explain how 'playing games' work. perhaps i don't even play games. like i said, i act respond accordingly. those who play games...a heed of advice, it get's tiring after a while. if you like the guy, just go for it, get your heart broken and move on. playing games just drag things and you'll feel frustrated and annoyed if you get trapped in your own game; and when he is better at playing games than you.

the article also added that:

A girl jumps from one social circle to another, making fast friends that don't last VS a woman values her deep friendships and nurtures that bond with time, gratitude, energy and thoughtfulness.

i'm just going to be cocky and say yes, i only have a few friends, but they're people i can trust with my life. quality over quantity yea?(:

finally! congrats if you made it to the last paragraph. tomorrow, or when i feel like it, i'll share my views on the differences between dating a boy and a man(: look forward to it! i shall study now~