am i even worth the effort?
Tuesday, May 20, 2014, Tuesday, May 20, 2014

this.

if you don't want to read the whole thing, here's the paragraph you should think about:

After three hours of not speaking to me, it became clear what was really bothering her when she told me emphatically: “You know, Charles, it’s amazing. I don’t care about your ‘date.’ And for all I care, you could have slept with her. But tell me this: When was the last time you took time out of your day and took me to lunch for no reason?”
the lack of passion. the lack of effort, you should have been prepared to invest for a successful relationship which demands past the dating phase. Don't ever be complacent again please.

 it may be a hypocrisy, it may be an excuse. i may be selfish. i may be a liar. i may be a coward. i made a mistake. but what do you know? this is my reason.

INFJ
Sunday, May 18, 2014, Sunday, May 18, 2014
So my friend suggested this 'reliable' personality test online. If you want to know more about me, read on.

I'm a INFJ.


The INFJ type is believed to be very rare (less than 1 percent of the population) [i like how this website put a percentage rating on their available types of personality and INFJ wasn't given a number. how rare indeed.] and has an unusual set of traits. Even though their presence can be described as very quiet, INFJ personalities usually have many strong opinions (very stubborn + head-strong), especially when it comes to issues they consider really important in life. If an INFJ is fighting for something, this is because they believe in the idea itself, not because of some selfish reasons.(doing this for you own good yo.)

INFJ personalities are drawn toward helping those in need: they may rush to the place of a major disaster, participate in rescue efforts, do charity work, etc. INFJs see this as their duty and their purpose (wa seh!) in life. People with this personality type firmly believe that nothing else would help the world as much as getting rid of all the tyrants (though preferably in a non-violent way). Karma and similar concepts are very attractive to INFJs.(you help me, i help you. you piss me off, you die.)

These tendencies are also strengthened by the fact that INFJ personalities have a unique combination of idealism and decisiveness. This means that their creativity and imagination can be directed toward a specific goal. Few other personality types have this trait, and this is one of the most important reasons why many INFJs are able to eventually realize their dreams and make a lasting positive impact.
INFJs are masters of written communication, with a distinctively smooth and warm language.(if i choose to. hahaha) In addition, the sensitivity of INFJs allows them to connect to others quite easily. Their easy and pleasant communication can often mislead bystanders, who might think that the INFJ is actually a very sociable person. (like how i always say, i'm clearly not an extrovert!)

INFJs should be careful to avoid “overheating” as their zeal and determination can sometimes get out of hand. As Introverts (I), INFJs need to have some “alone time” every once in a while; otherwise their internal energy reserves will get depleted really quickly. (right, right and right again!) If this happens, the INFJ may surprise everybody around them by withdrawing from all their activities for a while, and since other people usually see INFJs as always friendly and sociable, this can leave them both surprised and concerned. (and very much confused by my 'on-off' behavior too.)

INFJs take great care of other people’s feelings and expect others to return the favor. Unsurprisingly, people with this personality type are very sensitive and vulnerable to conflicts. Even the most rational INFJs may find it quite difficult to not take criticism personally—this is the INFJ’s Achilles’ heel. If someone with an INFJ personality cannot escape the conflict, they will do their best to deal with it head on, but this will result in a lot of stress and may also potentially lead to health problems or highly irrational behavior.(don't judge me, i'm just plain weird.)

Thre are many other sections of this INFJ thing. but the most surprising thing is when i read this:
To begin with, the best careers for INFJ personalities make use of their intuitive skills. INFJs tend to have a very strong intuition, which allows them to accurately judge events, situations, and other people. Furthermore, people with this personality type are idealists, and there is nothing more important than their values and principles. For these reasons, typical INFJ careers often include teaching, counselling, psychology, or creative writing.

counselling and psychology. WTF. how accurate can you get? this test is very clever. just a list of 60 questions and it pin-points the dominant characteristics of a person. me as a psychology student interested in counselling and art therapy, i approve.....additionally:

On the other hand, people with this personality type are very insightful and creative; they tend to be excellent architects, musicians, artists, photographers, designers, etc. The best INFJ career paths revolve around these traits.

artist YO!ok, so lets jump into relationships and dating:

It is hard to manipulate an INFJ as they evaluate the motives of other people very carefully, especially when dating. It is very rare for an INFJ to be tricked or talked into something they did not want. Nevertheless, the INFJs are friendly and full of compassion, even though they can be very picky when it comes to choosing their dating partners. A relationship with an INFJ is a connection that simply cannot be described in everyday terms. (yay)

Preferred partners: ENFP and ENTP types, as their Extraversion (E) and Prospecting (P) traits counterbalance INFJs’ Introversion (I) and Judging (J) traits. INTJs are also a very strong match as the intuitive connection between INFJ and INTJ is likely to be instantaneous.


it's funny how my ex-boyfriend sounds so much like ENFP and ENTP types. alas, i can't make him do the questionnaire to really find out..; but yes. ENFP & ENTP people, come & talk to me. i'll be here waiting *laughs*